Request and Commands

Request and Commands (For Children Ages 1 to 6)

Both request and commands are important when dealing with young children.

Commands should be given for mandatory tasks that affect safety or when an immediate response is required. However, when commands are overused, children may start resisting or challenging their parents. Therefore, whenever possible, it’s better to give choices rather than commands. For instance, instead of saying, “Go get it,” you could ask, “Will you go and get it?”

Parents should apply options for the child to choose from in non-urgent situations, reserving commands for emergencies.

Points to Note When Giving Commands

• Ensure Attention:
  • Stand close to the child—within 2 meters.
  • Speak at the child’s eye level.
  • Call the child by name before giving the command.
• Speak Calmly and Clearly:
  • Use a soft and calm tone.
  • Ask the child to repeat what was said to ensure they understood.
• Use Simple Language:
  • Give only one command at a time.
  • Avoid negative phrasing. For example, instead of saying, “Don’t sit with your legs crossed on the chair,” say, “Sit with your legs hanging down.”
• Offer Choices When Possible:
  • For example, ask, “Do you want to wear the black or white shirt?” while giving an order about dressing up.
• Be Prepared to Repeat:
  • Children may not remember instructions the first time, so repeating is often necessary.
• Allow Natural Consequences:
  • For instance, if your child is late to school, allow them to experience the consequences from the teacher to help them understand responsibility.