Teaching Skills

Teaching Skills (Ages 1-8)

Children should only be asked to do an activity after they have been taught how to do it.

A. Teach by Demonstrating

Teaching often involves showing children how to do things. For example, when you ask a child to bring a glass of water, make sure they have the ability to carry the glass before they spill it because it’s too heavy.

B. Intent – Instruct and Teach

How to Give Instructions:

• Get the child’s attention by saying their name and making eye contact.
• Give instructions from simple to more complex.
• Eliminate distractions like the TV.
• Use simple and clear words.
• Speak calmly and clearly.
• Use body language to help convey the message.
• Once the child has learned the task, stop giving suggestions.

Reasons Why Children May Not Follow Instructions:

• The child may not have understood the instruction.
• The child may not have the ability to complete the task.
• The child may simply not want to do what was asked.

C. Modeling

Most children learn by watching their parents. This is one of the best ways to teach. Instead of just telling them to clean their room, it’s better to show them how to do it.

This method also works well for teaching new habits and skills, including body language:

• Facial expressions, such as showing gratitude.
• Body language when welcoming a guest.
• Words like “thank you,” “please,” and “if you don’t mind” can be modeled to demonstrate politeness.

Points to Consider When Teaching Skills:

• Make sure the child is mentally and physically mature enough to handle the task.
• Teach the basics before moving on to more difficult tasks.
• Consider the time and setting—learning is easier when the child is focused and alert. For example, don’t try to teach right after eating or before bedtime.
• Eliminate distractions, like the TV or other electronics.
• Provide ample opportunities for practice.
• Praise and encourage them when they follow instructions.
  • Be specific about what you’re praising.
  • Avoid blaming or using negative feedback.
  • Instead of saying “That’s wrong,” offer guidance: “Next time, try doing it this way.”
• Remember, sometimes behavior may get worse before it improves.
• A creative and positive approach can work wonders.

For example: “Wow, you got dressed all by yourself today! Well done!”